â€œThe body never lies and the body never keeps quietâ€, Ancient Chinese proverb.
Observe the three role playing activities stated below:
One: Peter says, â€œPaul, Take this DVD cassette. It is very interesting. Play it and enjoy yourselfâ€. (Not looked at the DVD and also at the Paul while handing over).
Two: Peter says, â€œPaul, take this DVD cassette. It is very interesting. Play it and enjoy yourselfâ€. (Looked at the DVD but not looked at the Paul while handing over).
Three: Peter says, â€œPaul, take this DVD cassette. It is very interesting. Play it and enjoy yourselfâ€. (Looked at the DVD, maintained eye contact with Paul and smiled while handing over).
From the above three role playing activities it is obvious that the third activity is the best as the Peter smiled, looked at the DVD and maintained eye contact with the Paul. It is obvious from the above the huge signification and importance attached to the body language during communication. In this context, let us know in detail about the body language.
WHAT IS BODY LANGUAGE?
When we communicate only 7 per cent of the communication depends on verbal communication and the rest goes towards the non verbal communication. Of the 93 per cent- 38 percent is for voice modulation and 55 per cent is for body language. It indicates the tremendous impact it makes during communication. Body language constitutes the total facial animation and body animation. Human beings may say many lies but it is the body language that usually speaks truth. When we communicate the other person observes and registers our body language in his subconscious mind. Although externally, the listener observes and accepts every thing of verbal language but the listenerâ€™s subconscious mind is totally beset with our body language.
INTERPRETATION OF BODY ANIMATION:
Non Verbal Behavior Interpretation
Standing with hands on hips Readiness, aggression
Sitting with legs crossed, foot kicking slightly Boredom
Sitting, legs apart Open, relaxed
Brisk, erect talk Confidence
Arms crossed on chest Defensiveness
Walking with hands in pockets, shoulders
Hand to cheek Evaluation, thinking
Rubbing the eye Doubt, disbelief
Touching, slightly rubbing nose Rejection, doubt, lying
Locked ankles Apprehension
Hands clasped behind back Anger, frustration,
Head resting in hand, eyes downcast Boredom
Rubbing hands anticipation
Sitting with hands clasped behind head,
legs crossed Confidence, superiority
Open palm Sincerity, openness,
Tapping or drumming fingers Impatience
Pinching bridge of nose, eyes closed Negative evaluation
Steepling fingers Authoritative
Patting/fondling hair Lack of self-confidence,
Titled head Interest
Stroking chin Trying to make a
Pulling or tugging at ear Indecision
Biting nails Insecuritynervousness
Looking down, face turned away Disbelief
TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE BODY LANGUAGE:
Below mentioned are the common tips for effective body language and the same varies from culture to culture.
â€¢ First and foremost thing is to be aware of your own body language and capitalize the same effectively and efficiently.
â€¢ â€œThe eyes are the windows, the mirrors of the soulâ€, goes the Chinese proverb. The use of eyes in the process of communication is called Oculesics. Maintain eye contact to the listener. And do not stare at the listener as it creates inconvenience and discomfort for the individual. If you find it difficult to look into the eyes then look in between both the eyes, it appears as though you maintain eye contact.
â€¢ Keep your back straight but not stiff and donâ€™t slouch your body. You may slightly tilt your head forward to demonstrate your interest.
â€¢ Donâ€™t stand still in a place. Make a few comfortable movements with in your personal space.
â€¢ Proxemics â€“This refers to the way in which people maintain a physical distance from one another. Learn to maintain the right gap between intimate and public zone. Intimate zone is the zone for well known and close people. Where as the public zone is meant for unknown people. Never offend others by entering their personal zones during conversation or communication.
â€¢ While shaking hands be confident and positive and ensure that your palm should neither by upwards nor downwards but just be equal and vertical as it conveys assertive approach.
â€¢ Smile from the core of your heart. People are intelligent and can make out whether the smile is genuine or fake.
â€¢ Make use of your hand movements up to the hilt. Each verbal language must be consistently correlated to have effective delivery of speech.
â€¢ Observe the film stars and great speakers across the globe closely for correct body language. Try to implement the same as per your convenience, comfort and that suits your culture.
â€¢ Look into the mirror and speak, you can make out if there are any inaccuracies in your body language because you are the best judge for yourself.
â€¢ Deliver any speech in the presence of your friends and family members and ask them to bring to your notice for evaluation and correction.
â€¢ Visualization technique proves to be useful while delivering any speech. Visualize your role model vis-Ã -vis body language and adopt the same. Over a period of time you can develop positive body language.
â€¢ Videotape your conversation, communication or your speech and then check by muting the recording. By this, your body language can be observed fully and the areas that need to be improved can be corrected and adopted.
â€¢ Never view body language in isolation. It has to be seen keeping the cultural context view.
Body language is the most crucial part of any communication. Fine tuning body language helps ordinary persons to become an extra ordinary persons thereby excelling in all walks of life. Improving your body language can make a big difference in your people skills, emotional intelligence, attractiveness and general mood. The difference between the good leaders and great leaders is the right application of body language to convey, enthuse and inspire their followers.