Seduction is an Art

Robert asked:

Seduction is an art. (

It takes as much practice as learning a musical instrument or painting.

Empathy is essential to seduction. Every woman is different, so tailor your date, your words and your actions to that specific woman. You must know what she is thinking before you can offer her the pleasure she craves.

Read poetry. Notice the imagery, the ambiguity and the sound. Notice how modern poetry uses colloquial language to achieve all that. Don’t use big words or cliches. Your language should be “diabolic” (ethos and pathos) like that of a politician or a poet, not “symbolic” (logos) like that of scientists and philosophers.

If she senses that you are seducing her, she will run away. The pace of your seduction should be slow and the volume should be quiet.

All women like power in at least one of its many manifestations: money, status, intelligence, strength, etc. You need at least a little before you can seduce the most beautiful of women.

Many girls will tell you that confidence is what they look for, but nothing will increase your confidence like a successful seduction.

Insinuation is a must. Only a movie star or a professional athlete could expect success with a brash line like “let’s go back to my place and….”

Don’t be a doormat or a people-pleaser. If you are perceived as weak, you will never get a girl.

Always be honest, meaning don’t tell a lie. A lie is something you can get caught in. Don’t lie about your income, whether you have a girlfriend or not, whether you are good at sports, etc. Girls can see right through lies. However, bending the truth to achieve a more poetic effect is absolutely necessary. Also, most of the time, the correct answer is to say nothing at all.

Seducing a woman is like dancing with a woman. Sometimes you hold her close and sometimes you let her shine on her own and watch. If you are too clingy, she will feel suffocated. If you let her go and never come back, she will be insulted.

Reveal yourself slowly and only when directly asked. Don’t show more of yourself than she asks for. When the mystery is gone, the seduction is over.

Girls with boyfriends make excellent targets. If you can seduce a faithful girlfriend without showing up on the radar, you will have no problem with a single girl.

Seduction does not always end in the bedroom. If you seduce a faithful girlfriend or wife, she may decide to cut off all contact with you when she realizes that she is in love with you. Mark it as a success and be thankful that you didn’t have to break up with her. Do NOT however, go around ruining lives, there are people out there who are happy with each other, and who really don’t need you to ruin that.

Never take anything too seriously. You want to position yourself as a vacation from other guys–as the perfect summer fling. You are not possessive or controlling.

Not every woman can be seduced. College-age girls are especially difficult because they are the most satisfied with themselves. Younger girls want to feel mature and older girls want to feel young.

If the seduction fails for one reason or another, leave a good space of time before attempting to seduce her again. She must completely forget about the bad stuff before you can try to revive the old feelings.

Women can sense fear and weakness very easily. If you have shown fear or weakness (we all have), it’s time to start over.

If you use this technique purely for the end result, you probably don’t have the patience to perform a seduction correctly. Pleasure plays a major role throughout the process. You are not offering her a chance to sleep with you, but rather a chance to fall in love.

Study the biographies, writings and speeches of the world’s greatest seducers: Erroll Flynn, Casanova, Lord Byron, Charles De Gaulle, Gabriele D’Annunzio, etc.

Physically attractive seducers will be able to seduce much faster than unattractive ones, because the attraction is already there. However, unattractive men will have an easier time getting close to girls and gaining access to their hopes and dreams.

Be Yourself!

Be Direct

Be sincere

Be masculine

Always say “Hello” not “Hey,Baby”

Seduction is an art.form


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