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Seven Secrets of a Confident & Secure Woman
1. A confident & secure woman REPOSITIONS HERSELF
A confident woman never forgets the one thing that never changes –THERE IS ALWAYS CHANGE.
Nothing stays the same – things are always in motion. Under the right magnification, we would see that even the tallest skyscraper is moving. With the winds of change ever blowing, a secure woman realizes that she may not currently possess all the tools or knowledge that will take her to her goal, but she’s always ready to learn what she needs to know at any given time in order to get there. This may mean going back to school, changing job or vocations or even moving to a different location, but she is ready, willing and able to adapt to changing circumstances.
2. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO GIVE AND TAKE
Most of us have been told since childhood, “The gift is in the giving.†A confident woman understands that this is absolutely true. She knows the laws that tell her what she gives will return to her several times over. She will give her time, energy, and even her heart to those who need her. However, she also knows that she is not a super human and she does not over-extend herself. She regularly takes time for herself!
3. A confident & secure woman LIVES IN THE PRESENT
Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is the bread of idleness & futility that a confident woman refuses to eat. When recalling the past, she does not allow herself to dwell there but, rather, refocuses on the here and now. She understands that her past experiences, whether joyful or painful, are a part of her and have made
her the confident person that she is today. She also understands that the future is not real – it exists only in the mind. She has hopes for the future and engages in the occasional daydream while keeping herself solidly in the present tense of her life.
4. A confident & secure woman KEEPS HERE EYE ON THE PRIZE
Not everything we do comes up roses. To expect perfection is cavalier, but to know that mistakes are a part of the journey is wisdom. This knowledge allows the confident woman to refuse to pity herself when something doesn’t turn out as she’d hoped or expected it would. She might allow herself a brief ‘pity party’ but she refuses to wallow in the mud of self pity.
5. A confident & secure woman KNOW HOW TO SAY NO
Women have too little time and too much responsibility. The demands of jobs, child care, household duties, civic and/or church responsibility, and elder care are often draining. Having time to herself to do with as she pleases seems to be a far-fetched dream for many women.
The confident woman knows her limits and her need for self care. She understands that in order to be able to accomplish all that she wants/needs to do, she MUST have adequate energy reserves from which to draw. While sympathetic and even flattered when her phone rings off the hook with others making requests of her, she is able to pick and choose those people or causes to which/whom she will devote her time and energy.
6. A confident & secure woman TRUSTS HER INNER VOICE
While she may occasionally feel uncertain or seek the counsel of others, the confident woman knows deep down that her own heart will give her the direction she needs. While this intuition may be said to be a characteristic of all women, it is one that becomes refined only with age, wisdom and experience. The secure woman will carefully consider all the information at her disposal, seek advice from those she respects and then turn to that little voice inside of herself and become her own best counsel.
7. A confident & secure woman DOESN’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
If we allow ourselves to think too much about something or consider every little thing that could possibly come up or go awry, we can soon make mountains out of molehills and drive ourselves crazy. The secure woman is able to separate the chaff from the grain and focus only on those things of primary concern to her in any situation. She does not micro manage herself or her affairs. Rather, she focuses on the broader picture along with the key ingredients that are needed to solve her problem or reach her goal.